Men and Women Need Self-Reliance to Stop Violence


October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This often gets overshadowed by Breast Cancer Awareness Month, because people tend to look at domestic violence as something to be ashamed of.

But the truth is, both violence and cancer test people’s strength and resolve, and ultimately give a chance and a reason to find self-reliance.

In the case of domestic violence, bringing awareness to the situation not only helps the victims find organizations that are ready to give them a hand up and help them thrive… it also helps the perpetrators understand that their own problems can only be found within. Hitting another person, calling her names or threatening her does not solve his problems — only dealing with his own internal issues, and in the process becoming self-reliant himself, will stop the vicious cycle.

It is totally within our hands to stop violence towards intimate partners — a practice that just doesn’t make sense on any level.

"Domestic violence is best understood as a pattern of abusive behaviors–including physical, sexual, and psychological attacks as well as economic coercion–used by one intimate partner against another (adult or adolescent) to gain, maintain, or regain power and control in the relationship. Batterers use of a range of tactics to frighten, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, often injure, and sometimes kill a current or former intimate partner."

To celebrate this month, we’ll be highlighting organizations that give people on both sides of the equation a hand up towards change.

According to the Domestic Violence Awareness Project:

Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) evolved from the “Day of Unity” held in October 1981 and conceived by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The intent was to connect advocates across the nation who were working to end violence against women and their children. The Day of Unity soon became an entire week devoted to a range of activities conducted at the local, state, and national level. The activities conducted were as varied and diverse as the program sponsors but had common themes:

  • Mourning those who have died because of domestic violence
  • Celebrating those who have survived
  • Connecting those who work to end violence

These three themes remain a key focus of DVAM events today. In October 1987, the first Domestic Violence Awareness Month was observed. That same year marks the initiation of the first national domestic violence toll-free hotline. In 1989, the U.S. Congress passed Public Law 101-112 designating October of that year as National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Such legislation has passed every year since with NCADV providing key leadership in this effort. Each year, the Day of Unity is celebrated the first Monday of Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

The Domestic Violence Awareness Project has a list of DVAM events across the nation. Check out what’s going on near you, or start your own event to bring awareness and empowered change.

Mourn. Celebrate. Connect.

Stop violence.


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